Are We There Yet? The thoughts of a Single Christian Mom

Are you an Extraverted Christian? Are you an Empathic Christian? Are you Both????? I personally am both. Let me let you in on a little secret. When you are both, and you are just discovering your spiritual gifts you have an issue with a LITTLE thing called Boundaries. I would get all up in your business  and make those things mine to carry. I was going to carry all the world’s problems. Holy Bajeetters did I burn out fast! Oh and seriously scared the crap out of more than a few Introverts. I was a crash landing Christian. My intentions were good, I was going to bring in the rescue plane. However, My execution…. BOOM, SMASH,CRASH Landing!!!! I burnt out myself and sometimes the person I was “helping”. I may try to live like Jesus but by golly, I do not have his bandwidth. Let me provide a few examples: #1:The Thinker I started a new Singles Group in January and was so very excited. I even said out loud “ I just want to love on you all” in our first meeting. SCARY!!...

Somehow in life, we are almost all in Authority (Matthew 8:9),  we all have someone who follows our lead. It may be at work, your friends, in the church, or in your home.   With that authority comes responsibility and the part of that responsibility I want to chat about is this. Young Eyes, either figurative; someone who is young in faith or a seed has been planted, or literally ; someone younger than you, are watching. We are not responsible for what they do in life, but we are responsible for what we teach them with our actions and if we cause them to stumble with our choices while having that Authority ( 1 Corinthians 10: 31-32) I personally am a mom of 3, a 17 year old young man, A 12 year old boy, and a 4 year old little girl. I’m leading a singles group and Divorce Care and am a very vocal advocate for Dating as a Christian with all the physical and spiritual boundaries that entails.  I chose this but do I want the possibility of all my actions being analy...

Big Faith? But I do not have time to do EVERYTHING God tells me to….says you! Now, let me get started with I am sooooo not perfect. Sometimes I have to sniff in the boys bathroom to find that smell, or step over a vacuum cleaner and dirty laundry and 45 my little ponies to get to my bed because I am too exhausted to yell at anyone to pick them up. Sometimes I watch just one extra episode of House Hunters while eating Gardetto's and Ice cream, to dream of my future homeowner days. BUT…. I am obedient. Everything God tells me to do, I just do it.  I’ll make this quick and again, I’m not better than anyone.. I am just obedient because being otherwise has not gone well for me. My small group Leadership roles, Divorce Care Leadership, Remedy Leadership, Reaching out into the community and my friends to serve, Teaching my kids about Jesus and his love by living God’s word, Swim Lessons where I talk about God, Helping people move, Smiling at everyone I meet, Loving on people I e...

Disclaimer: I logged into my old dating apps to see what would happen in the hours prior to writing this  for research. I am not currently using these sites or any like them One Sunday evening we are sitting on our couch reflecting on the events of the weekend and think “ Man I wish I had a person (man or woman) to spend my time with” We think to ourselves how can I fix that? Then a lightbulb goes off. Online Dating of course. I can set it up right now (instant gratification), I will put up my very best photos and say extremely clever things in my tell-all bio. Then we wait. The messages, winks, flirts, meet me’s come flooding in as new blood is floating in the online dating pool. Then it happens…. We open the messages. Horror. Let me list a few common starter messages I have received today in the last 10 hours: “Hi”- This seems normal enough, however after one click on jwprofessional’s profile I see he wants no commitment, drinks everyday, and intends to have sex o...

Are We There Yet? Intro: Let me just say.. I’m a Jesus Follower. He’s my guy and for all my tangents and posts he’ll be my example. ******************************************************************************************************* Single. I’ll just leave that word there for a second. It is 2017, so what does that word mean now? What does it look like? Who Is in this group? What kind of feels does it bring you? (See what I did there, I’m that cool mom that knows words like “feels”) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- By simple definition it is anyone who is not in a relationship. That is simple right? Nope. It gets sticky because of the circumstances that get us there. Maybe you have never been married, divorced, out of a long term relationship, or widowed. Those circumstances may dictate how you feel about being single but one thing is the same. At one point or another we ask ...