Are we there yet God? Where is my person?

Are We There Yet?

Intro: Let me just say.. I’m a Jesus Follower. He’s my guy and for all my tangents and posts he’ll be my example.

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Single.

I’ll just leave that word there for a second.

It is 2017, so what does that word mean now? What does it look like? Who Is in this group? What kind of feels does it bring you? (See what I did there, I’m that cool mom that knows words like “feels”)

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By simple definition it is anyone who is not in a relationship. That is simple right? Nope.

It gets sticky because of the circumstances that get us there. Maybe you have never been married, divorced, out of a long term relationship, or widowed. Those circumstances may dictate how you feel about being single but one thing is the same. At one point or another we ask “God, Are we there yet?”  Meaning, we think we are doing everything God wants us to do and the other aspects of our life have fallen into place except one, a dang date. I mean what is He waiting for?

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It depends on who you ask.

Raise your hand if you’ve heard these responses

Your long time married friends (most of them): “Just stop searching and suddenly they will be right there”

Your very very Church friends: “Who cares just live your life for Jesus and let him be your significant other”

Your non church friends: “Just put yourself out there, have you tried online dating?”

These are just a few, but the list goes on and although your friends/families intentions are good,  all these things may be frustrating. If we are honest with ourselves when we get to the point when we are asking our friends…. we are looking. We think we are ready. We want to know what to do next. We sometimes even doubt our worth. Don’t!

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I’m here to say my opinion for what it is worth. God has a plan (I know, cliche) but what I mean is that He has things He wants to use us for, or things for the person He wants us to be with. He also wants us to have healthy relationships where both people are as close to Him as possible so that your relationship is built on a foundation of killer titanium stone. Which can only mean one thing, God is saying “No, (fill in your name) We are not there yet. I have things to do with you both, through both of you, and in both of you before I fulfill that desire”. Now if you think about that, it is actually pretty awesome because it means He wants the best for us.

I also wholeheartedly believe that he will give us the desires of our heart. So you might ask “What should I do?”  Well as a person that likes lists I will tell you my plan.

1. Pray- I will be praying for clarity as to what He needs me to do, who he wants me to touch, what he wants me to say.
2. Run- I will be running after God as fast as I can
3. Watch- I will be watching to see if there are any men keeping up while I am running
4. Trust- I will trust that He knows my desires and will fulfill them, remember He can make that way more beautiful than I ever could.  
5. Be Vulnerable- I will put myself out there without fear of rejection while still guarding and asking God to guard my heart
6. Respect- I will build healthy friendships with men that respect us both.

Remember the part of the serenity prayer that says God grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference?

Keep your focus on those things you can change and just give the rest to God! I assure you he can do a much better job with them than us.

What can you control today?