Young Eyes Are Watching

Somehow in life, we are almost all in Authority (Matthew 8:9),  we all have someone who follows our lead. It may be at work, your friends, in the church, or in your home.  

With that authority comes responsibility and the part of that responsibility I want to chat about is this.

Young Eyes, either figurative; someone who is young in faith or a seed has been planted, or literally ; someone younger than you, are watching. We are not responsible for what they do in life, but we are responsible for what we teach them with our actions and if we cause them to stumble with our choices while having that Authority (1 Corinthians 10: 31-32)

I personally am a mom of 3, a 17 year old young man, A 12 year old boy, and a 4 year old little girl. I’m leading a singles group and Divorce Care and am a very vocal advocate for Dating as a Christian with all the physical and spiritual boundaries that entails.  I chose this but do I want the possibility of all my actions being analyzed when I mess it all up? Heck No! However, with this Authority ( I report to Jesus) I have a responsibility to use these  these platforms with conscious guard of mine and others hearts.

For my boys, I am their lead on how a woman should behave, for my daughter I am her only lead on how a man should treat a woman. In all the aspects the goal is to live Jesus and the word of God when it comes to the choices I make because Young Eyes Are Watching. If I teach celibacy, getting to know a person as a friend before exclusive dating, and living righteous dating life…. I better be practicing these things too.  Not only to avoid the dun dun  dun word “Hypocrite” that Christians all across the world carry even when trying not to,  but also to be HAPPY!

How many of you have prayed that you could be obedient and felt it very difficult in the beginning? I know I did! It was hard at first and sometimes I would fall on my face but I remembered…. “Shelia, your daughter is watching you”. Now it is bigger than that, the expectations for me are higher ...all my own fault haha….because I have put it out to the world that I want to be held accountable if I falter in my obedience. (Proverbs 22:6)

I have been on 1 date this year (Oct-Oct), I immediately saw that our values were different and let him know I would remain his friend but that our core values did not mesh for me in pursuing a romantic relationship. But with that being said, I have had coffee and lunch with male friends, gotten to know some amazing men but I always show respect for them and for myself because not only is it integrity for myself but Young Eyes Are watching.

I want young Christian women, men, and my own children to know that you can live in the world but not date like the world says to. (John 1-18). You can have fun, get to know different people and still live a righteous dating life just by setting up your boundaries and sticking to them. I highly recommend Henry Cloud and John Townsend’s book Boundaries in dating if this concept confuses you. We set these boundaries in our physical relationships, common values, and spiritual walks not only to keep ourselves living as Jesus but because Young Eyes Are Watching. We are called to live like Jesus (1 John 2:6) and he was careful with his words, steps, and actions because not only was he watching but he wanted to be the example we would live by when he left this earth.

Are you taking you responsibility in Authority seriously? Are you a mother, father, sister, brother, youth leader, small group leader that looks around and reminds yourself, “not only will my obedience glorify God but it will also protect me and help me to teach others how to protect themselves”?

Look around you….. What Young Eyes Are Watching?